Chat Tell Us Your Troubles Thread - advice & friendly chats

Just sayin', but your therapist needs a different job if they can't keep a straight face in front of their patients just because they word things a certain way.

 

Lol, probably. ^___^;

 

yyyeah, laughing while a patient is trying to expose their most intimate problems is a BIG. RED. FLAG indicating utter incompetence...

 

he's not really incompetent. He's elderly, so has seen this many times, probably.

I like him, because he's not nasty to me and accepts my more vile issues that wont mention here cuz I don't want people ot deride me as a piece of shit that should be in prison.

people like this can take a few laughs, if it means living a better, normal life is more possible.

 

He can laugh all he wants, just not when on this kind of job, not when someone is already having enough trouble sharing something personal...
He's a therapist, he should be more sensitive to someone's mood than that.

 

I've been to Therapy myself. Depending on the situation, him laughing may be a good thing. I mean...

Maybe thats part of it. He laughs a bit but Kittens seems to accept him for it. The man is also a Therapist after all, I think he has the knowledge base and experience to know whit kind of patients and issues need what kind of interaction. If my Therapist had laughed at me, I'd of fired him after breaking his nose. But I'm a different person with (most likely) different issues. A therapist would know better, I'd say.

 

So that's your excuse for putting up with such attitude? "It could be worse"?
No shit it could be worse. That's life 101 lesson #1: It can ALWAYS be worse. But it could be better too, you know? Much, much better...

And excuse me if I got this wrong, but the problem doesn't seem to be what he's been told, but how its was told. If an issue can be solved with laughing, that's one thing. But BigEaredKittens' post seems to mention how she feels like crap when he does that, so I can't help but think he did something inexcusable.

 

You need to calm down. I wasn't being negative in my post.

I admit, I missed the part where she said it bothered her. I'm not saying "it could be worse", I was saying the situation may of been different then you thought. But I understand now. However, if his laughing bothers her, why not say so? I mean, he's a therapist, telling them how you feel is important. If he's a good therapist, he won't laugh at all if he knows it bothers her. But if he believes its helping her, he'll do it. Granted, I'm surprised he never asked about it.

 

I had a therapist walk out on me once. Guess I was a bit too precise with details there...

 

I had a therapist once! His name was george, and he retired. He was nice. c:

 

that gives a new meaning to "The devil is in the details".
He probably had more than he initially bargained for. Did he came back after that?

I'm ok. I just assumed you read that passage and tried to justify someone making them feel bad by laughing at their problems. Especially someone who is supposed to be a person you feel safe when confiding to. Paid to be so, even.
I speak from experience when I say that a framed piece of paper hanging from a wall does not a good professional make.

 

Nah, I got a new one. Things got weird after I was out of military healthcare and had no more access to people specialised on wartime PTSD. But it's getting better!

 

yeah. That's the thing, right? The details.

You are an interesting case to me, you know? Not that I wish that upon anyone. Much to the contrary, I've already said a number of times what I think of someone like you going to war. But I hope I won't offend you with what I'm about to say:

you illustrate how violent games and even movies never had the power to traumatize children in the first place. Because they lack those details. I'm not even talking about detailed graphics or even how realistic a game strives to be. There simply are details in our real life that no game has been capable of reproducing. The weight of your body. The weather of the moment. The smell. The touch. Every pore of a person's face next to you that your sight probably won't see but your mind subconsciously knows it's all there. The stress, not only mental, but physical. Games haven't surpassed that uncanny valley yet. Maybe that's why some veterans of war have no issues with playing violent games despite, say, getting a dramatic reaction out of an exhaust pipe making a loud bang while walking down the street.

 

You're a good dude, man. I couldn't have phrased that any better. Thanks, man.

 

Well BloodyFingers, I'm glad you seen that as a misunderstanding. And I'm glad we're cool.

And Surenu, that's good to hear. I just wish all Veterans would all get all the aid they need, and are entitled to.

 

I guess it's a cultural problem here in Germany. People get queasy when it gets to the topic of the troops due to our history, so the modus operandi is to pretend we don't exist.

 

I get he's trying to keep the mood up, which is nice I guess, as talking about some things in person is really uncomfortable.

Things are better this year, but still need a lot of work.

 

This is a problem that is actually quite crippling for me. I have no issues typing out my history, but actually speaking about it is pretty hard.

 

So I'm here again... First time of the year? I don't even know.
You know what I know? That I'm being asskicked by life. I've been getting shit grades at math and I'll probably fail the year, DESPITE MATH BEING THE ONLY GOSH DARN THING THAT i STUDY FOR! The education system is complete ass anyway! I'm in a class full of people who exclude me for no reason, with a teacher that must hate us all (with all the hellish tests he makes) in school in the middle of nowhere located in a country that I hate because it's full of morons!
Maybe I'm the moron... Probably, right? I'm the one who's been having bad grades besides being in tutoring and properly studying for the first time since 1st grade. I'm the one trying to make it to the university so I can graduate on some boring thing so maybe I can go and maybe be hired by a company to be mooched off and make money for other people. I'm the one who has to put up with the stupid rules of a world that I didn't ask to be born in but still have to forcefully follow.
...
I'm the one who's going to fail the year, have no dreams and disappoint his parents because of a single subject...
AGH! I DON'T EVEN KNOW WHAT THIS IS ANYMORE! Just ignore this nonsensical ramble, it'll save you the time you'll waste trying to understand it. I could say that I'm drunk as an excuse but I'm not. I wish I was...I guess this is what happens when sadness, anger and tiredness roll into one big thing.
I'm going to bed...

 

Yeah, takes time to scope out a good therapist. Best of luck tho, in getting what you need, yes.