Chat Tell Us Your Troubles Thread - advice & friendly chats

It didn't happen on my bike. A horse swung her head and hit me in the back of mine. Hit me hard enough to cause a severe concussion and give me vertigo. 60 mph on a bike and vertigo = not good.

Sorry about you brother.

 

Aand you just mentioned my distant third passion. I don't devote nearly as much of myself as I do for the other two, but other than brazillian portuguese, which is my native language, and english as demonstrated here, I can risk spanish and I do know enough of japanese to get the gist of a conversation (can't write or speak very well though).

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARGH

...oTL...

Chuffing hellfire! that was my second choice after the Dragstar.
Heck a 750 Virago is even better than that. Awww shoot...

And $500?! I have that amount right here! It was going for that new pc I mentioned, but a Virago 750 would certainly take precedence over that.

bohoohohooooo...

The kicker? My parents travelled to the USA in early april. I don't know where you live but for a bike like that I'd track you down had I gone with them, ms. Kashmir... fucking hell I can't believe this... :c

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*ahem* apologies. Sorry about your injury. That's a shame.

Oh my god... is he in one piece? Was there any lasting effects?

 

He is fine. He just can't really move his neck very far. So he can't ride anymore because it isn't safe since he can't turn and look behind himself anymore really. The accident is part of the reason we moved to Oklahoma. My dad's side is all here, my mom's are in Texas. My parents, bro and sis were the only ones in Colorado. I have 9 siblings, like 15 nieces and nephews, 2 grand nieces, too many cousins to count, 2 uncles and 3 aunts. And almost everyone lives in Oklahoma or Texas. One brother is in like California or somewhere, I don't know he doesn't talk to us. And one uncle is in Georgia. Probably some of my cousins too. So dad decided him and mom were moving to Oklahoma and if we wanted to go we could. So we did and now we actually get to do family stuff. Unfortunately that means family drama too. Like my sister who is 4 hours away bitching and moaning I didn't invite her to go wedding dress shopping with me when we decided last second to go because the sale was ending that day. And I didn't want a bunch of people there. I need two opinions that is all. Mom was annoying enough because she doesn't like crowds and stuff and was getting all upset. And my older sister that got mad at me... she is 10 years older and acts like I'm her daughter too much. I couldn't handle that, hence why I don't ask her help for wedding stuff. I don't need someone taking over and trying to tell me what to do and butting in and talking to people for me. I know what I want, I have it all handled. No one else is upset I didn't ask for help but there isn't really anything to help with. We are having a simple wedding. Anyways, so if my brother didn't crash dad wouldn't have freaked out and finally wanted to be near family.

 

I see. I am sorry about your brother's accident. What matters is he's fine.
I guess everything that happens in our lives matter. Both good and bad. Thinking like that helps put things in pespective.
Lots of cousins, huh? I know how that is. Parents being Baby Boomers will do that to you. I have more uncles, aunts and cousins than I could possibly remember.

 

I wouldn't change anything that has happened to me in life because it all took me to where I am now. I like my life now.
That is probably how my nieces and nephews feel. I know you could see it in their faces the first time I met some of them. Like what another aunt... how many more of these are going to come out of hiding.

 

I am so glad to hear that he is doing fine. I can't even imagine what it must have been like for either of you and your parents.

 

It was upsetting but seeing him in the hospital was actually the first time I had met him.

 

Thanks for all your encouragement, everyone. It means a lot. I'm sorry I wasn't able to respond earlier, but I got some new info, which changes my situation quite a bit.

So my dad's company invited him out to Kansas City, a little while ago, and they've just pretty much confirmed that he'll be getting a promotion. They're not sure exactly when, but it'll be sometime "soon."

What does this mean for me?
A lot. For one thing, since I've decided to go the transfer route, I'll be attending community college in the fall, rather than a university.
For those that aren't familiar, the biggest difference between those things is that I'll be paying ~$1000 per year rather than ~$22,000

So now that there's a (fairly significant) promotion in the future, my parents will be able to give me more help then they though they would.
I'll probably still have to buy my own car, but I'm not really worried about that.
My parents have offered to pay my tuition for every class I take at community college, so long as I pass them.
They still won't be able to pay all my costs at a university, but what they probably can do is pay the interest on my loans as it happens, so they don't get any larger.
Also, hopefully if I save most of my money once I get a job, I'll have enough to cover some of my expenses so I can take fewer loans.
And I'm still gonna be applying for a bunch of scholarships. Who knows, maybe I'll get a good one and not need any loans?

It also means that my parents will be living in Kansas City, Missouri. Which... is actually kind of nice? That's one of the parts of the country I've never lived before.

And, unrelated to the promotion, I've been considering the possibility of going to live with them (my parents) for my first semester, and doing classes online. That would mostly be for their sake, not mine. My mom's been taking it really hard that I left when I did.

So, there's the update. Not sure exactly what it all means for me yet, or where I'll be come fall, but that's an approximation.

 

Well, those are big changes indeed. Especially cost-wise. I'm rooting for you!
About living with your parents again: I trust you know what you're doing. I don't know the circunstances of your departure, so as long as you are all good, I guess it's fine.

Speaking of parents: It's Mother's day here. So congratulations moms! (need to make some phone calls, excuse me).

 

Thanks!
We parted amiably. The only reason I don't still live with them is because I wanted to finish high school here in California, and they live in Minnesota. For those of you unfamiliar with US geography, that's about 2,000 miles away.
But if I can do part of my college coursework online, I wouldn't mind doing it with them.

 

So I have a lot of stomach problems. I have no gallbladder, hiatal hernia, and IBS. I'm trying really hard to drop some of this weight to help. Everything got a lot worse when I gained weight, especially the hernia. But then I got too ambitious and tried work outs even though I know better and hurt the hernia very badly. I have been not doing anything to aggravate it since but it still not going well and I am having bad heart burn all day every day. Which makes it even more painful. Now on top of it I'm really stressed out so I'm in a lot of pain today my stomach is a mess and I just want to go home and cry.

 

I hope you feel better soon. Stomach problems are miserable.

 

Thanks. They are. I thought I handled everything pretty well. It wasn't till the stomach problems that I became a big baby. I think I rather like break a leg or something.

 

I am lucky for having a lead belly and bones of steel. Seriously though, that must suck. I hope you feel better soon.
As for which one would be preferable, @Kashmir is our resident broken bones expert. So what do you say? Is her assessment true?

In other news, I wonder how much worse my job must get before I am finally fed up with it.
We were just briefed on structural changes happening within the company. My new boss is a person who has a history of threatening her subordinates so they'll work way past their allowed time (legally we are only allowed to work 10h/day. She made people go over 12), and even during holidays. Crunching hours is nothing new in IT, but usually you don't do it under threat of losing your job.

Are you sure you are not hiring, ChuckleFish? I can clean your toilets if you need it... (half-joking here).

 

Thank you. I know it probably isn't the best option but just sticking to nutrition shakes for a couples days and avoiding solid foods sometimes helps. It kind of just lets everything settle down and stop being agitated. So I might do that again. Don't want to because it sucks.

I couldn't handle that. I can barely work 8 hours. Being here around people 40 hours a week is hard. It really stresses me out and makes me anxious and feel exhausted. It would be one thing if people here were nice and weren't mean. It is really hard enough as it is to have stomach problems but then to have everyone complaining about it and acting like I'm just a useless piece of disgusting junk. I don't get a choice when it acts up. They should be grateful I keep working through it. Because sometimes it is so painful I just want to go home and curl up in bed. But no I stay and suffer.

 

You are not alone. I have chronic migraines, level 10 pain. So far this year, I have fractured my butt and hip, broke my leg, and sprained my achilles tendon. I handled this fine, but when I get a stomach ache or tooth pain, I'm a big baby and just want to curl up and cry.

 

FYI, I never broke any bones until I turned 50. Since then, I've broken about 5. (but they healed).

 

Forgive my humor, then. Honestly I'm not even feeling funny today. At this point I'm doing it to cope with my day...

 

You're fine. As long as they heal, let's face it, it's pretty funny.

 

It is different with things you know will heal. Stuff like the stomach pain you never know when it will be, how long it will last and it just wears me out physically and emotionally.