Chat Tell Us Your Troubles Thread - advice & friendly chats

It only seems hopeless because that's what the depression does to your head. It makes you believe that you have no value in life.

 

Exactly! The depression is tricking you into thinking everything is hopeless, but it's not - there's always hope! Fight back! Show the depression that it doesn't get to choose how you feel! You can feel happy if you want to, it's your right!
That's how i feel, anyway. I couldn't think of the right way of saying it though. Thanks, Dr C. c:

When i want to be happy, i look at pictures of cute things! Maybe you could enjoy looking at pictures of things you like?

 

No mean to be a dick but are you accaully a therapist? if not, you should look for a job as one!

 

Haha not a therapist just a guy who care about people and understands where they're coming from

 

Ugh, So...my friend left for San Francisco and now I'm just...blegh.
I don't feel sad,well, at least I don't think I feel sad. I've just been lonely these past couple of days.
There was a point in my life, 2 weeks ago,
where I'd always have someone to talk to but things happened and now one friend has left the state and the other has decided to drop communication with me so now I'd be lucky if I get a single message these days.
I'm just afraid that I'm going to fall back into my depression like i was 2 months ago.

 

I have a really weird situation at school, but I'm not sure if I want to post it...

 

No one will judge you here friend Post away.

 

Alright, fine.
So there's this girl in my class that was in my class for the last two years, and she moved away after last school year, but she's moved back (keep in mind that I'm in eighth grade).
Last school year, there was a rumor that I had a crush on her- it was not true back then. But now, I'm not so sure. I always deny it whenever my friends bring it up, and I don't really see any reason to date in junior high.
HALP ME
Edit: I go to a private school though, so there shouldn't be much "drama" and stuff, mostly just teasing from my friends.

 

Everything will be perfectly fine, if you honestly don't want to date someone right now then don't it's okay you're young you have a LOT of time to get into the dating scene. If you do have a crush on her then so what? You're a growing boy and these feelings start to develop naturally, it's nothing to be embarrassed about =) Personally I waited a while till about my second year of highschool to start dating, it's one of those things that takes a toll on you emotionally when it ends if you're too young to understand life.

 

Yeah, I guess that's the best way to go. Thanks.

 

"are you accaully a therapist? if not, you should look for a job as one!"

 

Thanks!

 

Hmm, okay...

This is going to be a long one...

I have Asthma (tamed), Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (tamed), Chronic Constipation, Asperger's Snydrome, Anhedonic Depression, Depression Induced insomnia, and Depression Induced Narcolepsy. I have been officially diagnosed with the first four. I also have incredible patience, Absolute Pitch, near immunity to frustration, and undying ambition. I have the ability to control my asthma, so that I can only cough voluntarily, and coughing is extremely effective now. My OCD has given me an ability to observe extreme amounts of detail, sometimes to a painful extent. My ADHD causes me to be in a constant state of instability. You know that feeling that gently nudges humans telling them to try something new, and occupy themselves? I experience that very strongly at all times, and it is PAINFUL. The OCD combined with ADHD results in me being literally incapable of ignoring anything.

I fell out of a 2 story window in my sleep when I was 8, resulting in a fracture of my skull, two bones in my spine, and a traumatic brain injury. I was in a constant state of severe back pain and head migraines, and incapacitated. I was only in the hospital for a mere 6 days before my bones healed, however. My brain took 6 months to recover from the primary mental injuries, and 2 years to recover from all mental injuries.
In Kindergarten, my teachers constantly refused to accept the way I held pencils, and kept moving my hand to uncomfortable positions to "correct" that. I was required to write a journal every Monday, but I instead drew pictures of what I felt was relevant to me and barely wrote anything.
In 6th grade, I had a lot of trouble in school, fell asleep all of the time in various places, learned nothing, and frequently cried to my mother through my cell phone in need of going home early. Despite all of this, I got really good score on the end of grade testing. This makes me question the school system's reliability.
In 7th grade, I was homeschooled.
In 8th grade I went to a private school, with the same problems as 6th grade, but much less so. I met a truly good friend there, but he has since moved away (Why does this always happen, and only to the people you care about?).
Last year which was supposed to be 9th grade, I attempted to go to a very refutable high-school which was known for being very friendly to various problems that people have with learning. I was required to read one book from a specific list for the beginning of English class. I chose The Princess Bride, since the movie was one of my father's favorite movies, I was genuinely interested in it. I read about half of it, but then school started and I had to read in class. I was assigned a locker, but I abhorred the idea of storing my possessions in a place that is legally required to be accessible to teachers, and searchable by police if I was suspected of even the slightest thing. I asked if I could put my own lock on it, to which I was told that it would be destroyed with a hammer. I ended up carrying my stuff around with me instead, but it didn't help that I have always been a rather weak person, and the bag contained my laptop which was needed for the only extracurricular class that was available (and therefor, required). I dropped out after 2 days due to sheer exhaustion, and spent the entire rest of the year recovering.
I am now taking specialized online classes such as Khan Academy in attempt to complete 9th and 10th grade in the same year.

And then, there's some things that happened that I consider deeply personal, and would only like you to continue reading if you know yourself to be kindhearted, and unbiased.

I have GID (MTF). This is what causes the Anhedonic Depression, and the main issue I'm currently dealing with. I am currently undergoing hormone therapy, voice therapy, and am holding off on any ideas of surgery until printed organs are fully researched.
I am very lonely, and am in desparate need of a significant other. I believe I already have one, but it's hard when we can only communicate over the internet.
I often feel as if I was born two millenia too early.

During some weird time paradox, (or memory paradox), I was going to a school known as Wright School. This was a boarding school that touted being very kind and patient to learning disabilities. This was not quite true. I was required to graduate before being allowed to go somewhere else, apparently this requirement was a legal requirement and even once my parents agreed with me that we should drop out of the place, they could do nothing. I remember very little (thankfully) of my stay, but I know that even the teachers knew little about learning disabilities.
I thought that was the last I would ever see of such a place, and a few years after I managed to graduate (they gave you a specific date of graduation, and delayed it whenever you looked at them funny) the place was apparently torn down. I was wrong, there was another place. Some place called a "behavior hospital." I voluntarily asked to go there after the second time it was suggested (how naïve of me), thinking it would be a friendly place where the people would actually care about me and help me with my problems. Oh no, it was not that at all. It was the same as Wright School, but worse. I couldn't go home at all, only being allowed to have my parents visit for a single hour during Saturdays and Sundays.

That would have been most of what I have to say, however there is more. There are things that I am aware of and am very confused by, however they have never been scientifically proven, or even investigated. If I were to talk about these here, no matter how unbiased and open-minded you believe yourself to be, you would make the misconception of me being delusional, stupid, ignorant, or even crazy. I would certainly like to have assistance in my research, but only by someone who does not make any of those misconceptions.

 

It flips between two extremes for me, the current one (sleeping for 5 hours, being exhausted but unable to sleep.) and the inverse, staying awake for 12 hours, then sleeping for 12-14, which is the more common of the two.

 

I'm sorry this all happened to you. When someone has so many mental issues, OCD ,ADHD and not only that but add a layer of Depression on it and it makes it worse. Personally from reading your story I can only infer that regular therapy doesn't really work for you now does it? Which is fine! When you have OCD and Narcolepsy it's very very very hard to quell Depressing thoughts without Medication. I assume you already(or did at one point) take medication to help with your issues?

I don't know what it's like to undertake Hormone Therapy but I can tell you without a doubt that you won't be alone forever. Our society has progressed so much in the fields of science and social acceptance. Thing's like Hormonal treatment have gotten safer and better. I know it seems lonely now because your potential SO may be hundreds of miles away but just the fact that there's someone out in the world that cares and loves you should be enough for now. I understand that we're all human, and as humans we have needs and urges that just can't be fulfilled when there's an obstacle like distance in your path. I just think it's best if you consider your needs and feelings first and foremost before someone else. You're important too. Especially with all you're going through.

 

This thread... you have no clue how helpful a post like the above ^ or any other actually are. Some people probably come in here, lurk around and think "Oh yeah whatever, another person with X and Y or some problems" but the truth is if you've ever experienced any more serious mental problems in your life even a single post on a forum like this can make your day much, much better.

Even though I'm not posting in here... at all... I just wanted to say THANK YOU to everyone involved in this thread, you are truly great, every single one of you and I mean it.
Keep up the good work people

 

I'm uh... undermotivated.
I love to procrastinate. It makes me depressed.
And i just came back to a sport i was doing after resting for four weeks (sickness) and i did absolutely terrible, killmenowpls. All gains are lost q_q
I used to have some serious problems when i was 12-14. I still do, but in a moderately good way.
Eeeup. I'm glad i got over that phase. Upgraded from Omega to Beta. Fuark we upgrade bruh.

Winston Churchill once said "When going through hell, keep going."

 

Imagine Earth. Now zoom out. Look at earth as it spins. Now imagine yourself sitting behind the computer down there.
Zoom out some more, look at the solar system. Speed up time. It's okay, the planets won't care. A hundred years to them is absolutely nothing.
By then you are dead. And most of your friends as well.
Zoom out even more! You see the galaxy, the milky way!
Already, you are pretty much smaller than the smallest thing that exists (mypenis). Anything you ever did is so pathetically miniscule that it doesn't even exist on a galactic scale. It doesn't even exist on Earth's own scale. Even if all humans ever decided to blow up every bomb they had ever made at the same time, earth would get pissed and ash covered, but nothing more.
We aren't even able to influence a single planet, other than killing It's vegetation and resources. Vegetarians, environmental activists. Their influence is so pathetic that i don't even know where to start. We'll all be dead soon, maybe not seen from a human perspective, but from a planetary one.

I think of humans as parasites. We are exactly like parasites. We consume what we need, and once we are done with that sh*t, we move to the next place to consume it.
Once we are done with Earth, we move to another planet. The moon is a viable option. So is Mars. Earth is going to be pretty fuged up by the time we move. We leave scorched, uninhabitable earth behind us, a dead cell. Or we infest a planet and make it a breeding place for humans. Well, just think about it, you get the idea.
Well, that's some epic progress, rite? Fuark yeh humans bru!

Nope.

There's another planetary system out there. Untouched. And the lifespan of a virus is so small that maybe we won't ever survive to fully take our own solar system.
I could say that the sun is like an atom. With little electrons revolving around it. Imagine how big that is compared to the observable universe.

So basically, what i mean, everything you do, everything that ever happened to you, everything you achieved is so miniscule, so ant like, that it doesn't count. It's not even ant like, It's bacteria like. Thousands dying every second, thousands being born. It's not really a problem though.
I just think that It's nice to come to terms with it. This may make your depression worse, or better, i dunno. Just something to think about.

 

This might sound rude but trust me, what does it change that in the next 100000000 years Y will happen and so on? You can't possibly influence that and it won't influence your life either so I do agree with you to some extent, however this:

I think that's just silly. No matter how small or trivial something looks to be in your eyes it CAN change things even if that's something really small, trust me...
Sometimes I tend to think like that but I'm trying my best not to since it only makes me feel bad and nothing more. Just do what you enjoy and take small steps, try to take as much out of the life as you possibly can.
(I'm bad at this =3)

 

Nahh your not bad. Its some good advice.