Chat Tell Us Your Troubles Thread - advice & friendly chats

Today was one of those days.

 

Did you lose it again? Want to share it with us?

 

Actually had a run in with a problematic individual, eventually decided that the place where I frequently encounter them isn't worthwhile anymore.

 

If they can't be reasoned with, for one reason or another, then avoiding it for now is the for the best.
What kind of place was that? Is it somewhere in school? A local establishment?

 

Merely a different thread on this forum I visit, a non serious one where I can let all my inner silliness out in one stop, just a place to let go for a while so I can maintain myself elsewhere.

I'll miss it, but I'll live.

 

If it's some random internet person then I don't think you should let it get to you. Simply add him to your ignore list and his messages will no longer show up to you.
If it is someone you know outside of this forums, well... I'd try to talk to him/her.

 

It was a former friend, things just got flipped on their head one day and I still don't know what I did wrong.

 

I see. A girl in high school I had befriended started ignoring me out of the blue. Probably because of something I said. I wish we could've talked things out, but she gave me the cold shoulder for the rest of the year until we graduated. Then we went our separate ways.
I was quite depressed because of that. I had just gotten out of a disappointment with another girl, so this was a sad streak I was going into...

 

Sounds surprisingly relevant, not sure what else to say.

 

It was, at the time. As I said, it was way back in high School. I'm 27 now...
Just mentioning it to say that I somewhat understand what you are going through.

 

I suppose there's some more I need to say bout my situation, but I'm photoshopping cat heads onto my favourite band member's bodies and vice versa because I'm bored. I'll do it later, if I remember.

 

It's really interesting, seeing how people "generally" act at different stages of life. Early on, passion and energy are the most easily-seen attributes. Later, those fade and it turns to efficiency or rationalization or simply not being very active. And then it seems to turn into a last-ditch effort to regain the zeal of youth.

Also easily seen on these forums!

 

Hi, misery has come alright... I'm here to let off my chest the fact that I just seem to be a little (literally, I'm really short for my age...) bomb ready to explode!
See, I'm a normally happy-go-lucky 15 year old dude that never gets angy (or atleast, I get angry but I do no show it).
But... lately a lot of ... I dunno, stuff (the teeenage rollercoaster hormones, with nagging parents, etc. kind of stuff that every teen experiences, if you want I can tell you on other posts) is happening and the tension just makes me want to go mad and beat the crap of/ destroy/ vaporize/ obliterate anything that is in my field of view. It's like I'm a robot receiving the "directive: shoot on sight" or something... I've been trying to like... kill everyone on GTA SA, destroy planets in Spore (haven't got Starbound... YET! ), doing a shiton of falalities on MortalKombat and they only work a little!
Also, I have moments that I feel like a worthless tiny ant drowning in cow diarreah (ok, gross metaphor, sorry... :L)

 

This may or may not be reassuring, but you're completely normal. Seriously. It's kinda messed up if you think about it, but there really is nothing wrong with you.

Teenage "era" is full of huge pressure and completely changing expectations, some of which aren't even told to you. Your parents are struggling with the fact that you are (or are almost) ready to make your own decisions and be your own independent person, because they still remember you as a baby and you as a toddler and ... you get the picture. You're learning a lot more about the world, your friends, social pressures, the fact that girls are hot and cooties don't really bother you anymore, etc. Think of it like you've spent your life in a shoebox, and you open the lid one day to realize that you're in Las Vegas, with all the shiny lights and so many things.

With all the huge upheavals, it's only natural that your moods and mindset will go through the same upheavals. If my entire world changes, you'd better believe I'm not relaxed about it! I'm upset that my routine is screwed up, my friends are doing weird crap, and my breakfast is cold.

Some advice I can think of is to find stuff to do that you enjoy. To an extent, it doesn't matter what it is, as long as it doesn't have long-term consequences. This means recreational "things", or really dangerous stunts, or sleeping with every girl that will wear a schoolgirl outfit. Those types of decisions will screw up the rest of your life (which you have no idea what it will be, btw). Have fun doing fun things like running through sprinklers with friends, or staying up all night watching movies or playing games, or running around at night trying to not be seen. I dunno, it doesn't matter if the stuff makes sense, as long as you enjoy it and it doesn't ruin you.

If there's a physical or social component to it, that's even better. Fun things are fun. Fun things with friends are LOTS of fun. Fun things with exercise are fun and make you feel better (and you get stronger). Chicks dig guys that are fit, and it's always helpful to know that you can hold your own in a fight (or run away).

 

Wow, thanks for the fast reply, it all makes more sense now...
I think, I'll be sticking around, not only to ask if I have more problems, but to try to help if I can, read others' touching stories, read people's point of view about other's problems and life experiences...
Reason for editing:My keyboard got the dumb and started typing words in random lines...

 

Awesome. Er, despite me stating my stuff, please don't think that I have the answers. I don't, because everyone is different and everyone's situation is different. Overall, don't beat yourself up over having mood swings or strange new emotions. It happens to everyone, so it's really not a big deal and don't read too much into it.

For me, the way I found to best understand my own feelings, is to talk about it with others and hear from others about what they're going through and what they think about it. If I can see how other people react and understand stuff, I can compare that to how I react and understand stuff.

Despite being fairly cynical in general, I think that almost every person really is trying to help those around them. Sometimes, they don't know how, or are caught up in their own pressures and aren't able to help right now, but I think that each person is good. Groups of people, however, can be ***holes.

 

Typing out what you feel on a forum seems to be easier then doing 1 on 1 confide sessions, anyone else get that toxic feeling when you're thinking you're just bothering the other person?

Keeping everything to myself always worked out in the end so I need to stop talking about personal stuff with others I suppose.

 

Must I really say the obvious, and state that's is by concept,a bad idea?

I mean, I don't intend to be rude, but why on earth do you constantly insist on this idea?Humans are social animals, no matter how much anti-social mot of internet is, its necessary.

 

I get that feeling sometimes just by talking to someone, about anything.
I may be fun to hang out with on the internet for a while but, personally, I think most people get tired of me pretty quickly and are just too polite or too embarassed to say it to my face.
On the internet at least it is fairly easier to just block out someone you find annoying, so there's that.

 

I didn't come here to argue anything, I just said what works for me.

Strange that I've always been more comfortable telling total strangers about how I feel instead of people I actually know though, I learned that was a mistake recently but at that point they were probably acquaintances.