Chat Tell Us Your Troubles Thread - advice & friendly chats

Nor will I, that's why it's a long-term fix. Granted, I'll be out for grad school, but I'll have to come back.
Me and my brother are pretty distant and unattached to each other, so he's not so much a dick to me as he is a dick to everyone else. The main issue is he's a huge dick to my mother, which raises tensions throughout the house.
I didn't mean to make it sound easy. Because let's face it, it isn't easy at all. But the minute you give up is the minute you willingly consign yourself to loneliness. Keep looking, you never know who you might click with. The main thing to keep in mind is that people are not going to seek you out to be friends, you're the one that has to do the seeking.
Sounds like a love triangle. Those always turn out nasty. But it's better you found out their true colors than continue the lie.

 

Things are still the same here as they've been for years.
But today, my support worker is coming over to make me go out and buy clothes, and then i get to make flapjacks. Getting ready to go out is hard and stressful and now i'm already exhausted. x.x

 

I'm want to halp with this. I got problem I can't solve(and never will) so why not help someone else feel better! ^^

 

Don't say that about yourself man, emotions are perfectly normal and are nothing to be afraid of.
The people who would insult you about these things aren't comfortable with their own emotions so they take it out on other people.

And I suppose it's not the same, but you have the rest of us in this thread to talk to. I'm pretty sure most of us would be happy to chat.

 

Yeah, that's what I am going with for now. I just think finding an outlet is the best for me atm. Maybe when I head to college I can actually meet people that are genuine. Thanks.

Well that's good that you have things to do that keep you active makes you think less about miscellaneous stuff. Maybe more time hanging out outside the house is good for ya. Good on you.

Yeah thanks, I am usually comfortable with my feelings, but when it happens for that long frequently it is just too pitiful.
I think just certain triggers start up my panic attacks. It's annoying. :\

 

In other news I've kind of come to the conclusion that I'm now physically unable to cry. Which is strange because i used to be a huge crybaby from an early age until very recently. It's really taken a toll on me physically. It's like I have this heavy emptiness and there's no way for me to express it through tears. I'm honestly really concerned, I never realized how much I needed crying till after I lost it, I used to be pretty ashamed when I would cry because I felt way too sensitive and I thought it meant I was a Wuss but now I feel stone cold and I'd rather be that crybaby than someone whose emotionally detached all the time.

 

Being "too sad to cry" is a thing, i get it sometimes too.
My psychologist has me do forms every 3 months to measure my anxiety, depression and OCD. On the depression form, it says "Do you cry often?" followed by the options "No more than usual", "I cry often.", "I cry daily." and at the bottom "I want to cry but i'm too sad."

 

Is that really possible though? Because it hurts. Like actually physically hurts right now.

 

If you google "Too sad to cry" and ignore all results about the song, there are lots of examples of people who feel the same. *hug*

 

Oh... Oh god...
I know what that feels like. To want to cry, but you can't...
It also reminds me of that three or four days where I was feeling severe mental pain. Not emotional pain, not physical pain, mental pain. It is the most abhorrent kind; You always feel as though you need to get something done, but all you want to do is relax... That urge? That urge to try new things, and never give up? Imagine that, but ×12 and all the time.
Why did this happen? Well, I can't really tell you. Let's just say I was prescribed medication, and the dates I was supposed to take it were too far apart.
A total collapse back into the state of mind I try to subdue. It's always more painful when it just suddenly comes back, rather than being used to it like I used to be.

 

That's EXACTLY how I feel most of the time

 

Oh wow... I have it almost just like that, except the brother thing. My parents have been so angry and strict lately. I'm even afraid to say my own opinion anymore about anything. It makes me so angry sometimes, and I try not to be angry at them or anything, so it usually ends up with crying for hours from times to times.

I really want to move out, but as you said, I wouldn't think I'd be stable enough either. I really want to move out though, but I can't. It's a mess, I don't know what to pick. Also all they do is to tell me to find a job this and find a job that and they know I would rather continue on school. This brings stress, and with that the ticks, and it is so tiresome.

It's such a big mess all of that, it really is. Hope things works out great for you.

 

Thanks mate, you have tourettes too? My parents tell me I should go do stuff away from the computer/room. I just can't whenever I do I end up feeling more miserable, or I am forced to do a chore that doesn't require my immediate attention. I always do chores without being asked, it's just if I expect to do chores when I am not in my room, I don't want to leave.
This also leads to me being socially awkward and not having friends. Bleh. :\

 

It's unfortunate because I have the same problem. I've boiled it down to me either being a tough nut to crack and actually make sad, or I'm just not able to for some reason.
The funny thing is, when I know I need to cry, my body makes me yawn excessively as if to push the tears out or something- it's kinda scary truthfully. I like to keep records of things that push me the farthest; the current record was when I was thinking about how screwed up the world is and "Mercy Mercy Me" by Marvin Gaye came on.

 

I used to be quite dissociated with my emotions and trauma, I don't break easily any more. It takes a special kind of cruelty to make me cry, now I am a little more in touch with my emotions. I wouldn't say it was always a bad thing to be a tough nut to crack at all. Toughness and resilience are good things when it comes to interacting with others, lacking things like empathy and compassion is not.

I can truly vouch for humanity here, though. The world is not so screwed up, a few things about it are of course. Just know that at the scene of every disaster there are a greater amount of people running towards to help and putting themselves in danger than the amount of people who instigated it or are casualties in it.

 

By no means is it intentional, I just don't get sad easily. It just goes that way for some reason, probably in relation to other emotions I have in the same boat. It takes a lot to astound me as well.

As for humanity, I don't want to jump on the "faith lost" meme bandwagon or whatever, but we've screwed up too much to make up for it. No matter how many good people there are, the ones in power are the real ones that count- and usually it's negative changes being made. Our world isn't getting any better, only the opposite.

 

Well, we are more at a standstill than anything else. It is getting better in some ways, media is continuing to cover negative events--constantly. The choices being made aren't taking us anywhere particularly spectacular or advantageous. We aren't being adventurous, it is very much profit over progression at the moment.

I see a lot changing in the next decade.

 

I was like that at the start of the year. I was really depressed, but I really couldn't act on it until I just cracked, and all down hill from there.
As for the humanity thing, I listen to politics once in a while, but I have never had a time where I listened to it and wasn't annoyed at the world. I just think about all the people that are normal citizens in any country and I think of what they might think about their government.
Do they want people from other countries eliminated? Do they really want a war? I think it's the governments including the U.S want things like this. If it the world really was up to a complete democracy I think the world would be happier, because there is no biased representatives. Just a pure equal vote by all human beings without manipulation.

 

The only thing I can hope for is, that as we get smarter and more enlightened perhaps, we can see the error of our ways and truly follow morals and have respect for things.
I don't usually pay the media much mind, unless it's to stay informed. I'm talking about our race as a whole, just generations of war and horrible acts dealt upon each other.
And if it's not against each other, it's against the earth and it's living beings. Did you know our professor actually informed us that Australia was planning on drilling into the great barrier reef because there's a large quantity of oil under it supposedly. Ultimately, this destroys the reef of course... I was astounded and disgusted.

My streak has been going for too long, the only time I remember actually crying at something was when I was a kid still.
As for government, well it's obviously not pure... sadly. It should be for something that represents and runs a country, but hey. Power demands sacrifices and other unfortunate choices being made to try and please everybody- to the best of their ability. I'm more talking about humans in general though.
One of the best quotes I've ever heard was, "Is it worth advancing as a species if we have to kill each other to do it?"

 

Indeed, I keep in touch with it as much as I can as a citizen. Although, war and cruelty towards animals was far more frequent a long time ago. It's not something new to us humans, but it happens no where near as often any more... as unethical the acts may be they have definitely gotten more tame. You would be astounded to learn of the techniques that were used a long while ago.

And yeah, it is astounding. The very notion that we are still choosing profit over progression is disgusting, we are easily beyond fossil fuels now. We could substitute for alternative fuel sources. However, investing in such does not show immediate results in the cash department. It's very similar to how things like Alcohol and Tobacco aren't banned despite being the cause of astonishing amounts of deaths each year.