Crashing when joining friend on multiplayer

hello! i have been having an issue for the past 2 days with the game, when i try to join my girlfriend on multiplayer, i crash. it happens when i click my character/save. i thought about it being a save issue, but the save is on their computer as far as we are aware (we read that multiplayer saves are on the hosts computer) and we are not sure where to find it. at a bit of a standstill here, not sure how to continue past this other than make a new save which id really prefer not to do as stardew valley has had me hooked for the past month and id hate to lose my progress on my girlfriends game

my SMAPI error logs:
https://pastebin.com/raw/kj7jHWM3
https://pastebin.com/raw/rcqbuekQ

mods installed:
Community Farm
MTN
StardewHack
ConsoleCommands
ContentPatcher
SaveBackup
UI Info Suite
(sorry if some of these are resources for mods to work and not mods, im new to stardew valley)

 

Ninja edit, forgot that pastebin backend still works for the parser site. Remove community farm and upload the full crash log to that mod's page.