Am i realistically able to run a heavily modded starbound server to play with another friend? Curren

My end goal is to run a game server on my pc(strong i9-10850K), to which my friend will connect with a laptop(kinda weak, i5 earlier generations - will follow with more details if need be).
The modlist: https://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=2455033369

Tried with and without steam, 32(feels like this would freeze more often) and 64 bit and no results yet. Fps is around 60, but when i get the freezes(1 - 3 seconds, every minute or two) it seems to drop to around 30.

I have done some reading around game performance as i was trying to fix the freeze, among which this particular review: https://steamcommunity.com/id/TheAssholeFish/recommended/211820/

My standard for the fix is just to have the game playable, even if the fps will start to get lower (to around 30, like the review says) as we build our base and progress through the content. Is it doable?